What Everyone Can Do

To prevent gender violence, we must all work together to bring an end to it and to foster healthy, equal communities. While there are many systematic and long term initiatives needed to be enacted to reach this goal, there are steps each one of us can do to end violence.

  • Believe victims of sexual assault, relationship violence, and stalking.

  • Get help (you deserve the support!) for sexual assault or abuse.

  • Do not blame victims for what someone else chose to do them; it is never the victim's fault.

  • Mentor girls and boys and demonstrate healthy relationships.

  • Join a community engagement program or a social group of committed people who want to end gender violence.

  • Challenge cultural expectations of men and women that reinforce notions of men's dominance and women's submission.

  • Acknowledge men as potential allies in creating equality for women.

  • Take a break from reading any beauty or fashion magazines for women or magazines like Maxim directed at men.

  • Stop using language that hurts women; avoid calling women "sluts" or "whores."

  • Choose not to say homophobic comments like, "that's so gay" as it reinforces violence against people who are GLBT.

  • I nterrupt sexist comments, if you feel safe doing so.

  • Develop your own style of challenging people for saying hurtful comments.

  • Recognize gender violence as everyone's issue.

  • Don't ignore violent behavior.

  • Question your own attitudes about sexual assault and other forms of sexual violence.

  • Gently ask someone you think may be a victim of abuse how you can help.

  • Learn about the root causes of gender violence and educate others.

  • Start talking about the problem with people you know.

  • Take the issue seriously and with concern.

  • Interrupt sexist comments, jokes, and language.

  • Interrupt comments, jokes, and language that are sexually degrading or minimize rape.

  • Give people the dignity we all deserve.

  • Do not talk about sexual experiences in a way that objectifies or dehumanizes other people.

  • Develop your own style of challenging common sexist remarks you hear.

  • Work to end racism.

  • Demonstrate healthy and respectful attitudes about women; do the same to challenge narrow definitions of masculinity and allow for the diversity in expressions of what it could mean to be a man.

  • Choose not to support media that degrade women and sell men short; challenge it and show others what you see wrong with it.

  • Listen to survivors; find out where they are coming from.

  • Ask your partner how he or she feels about sex and what s/he is and is not comfortable doing.

  • Volunteer for The Aurora Center as a Direct Service Advocate, Violence Prevention Educator, or Special Projects Volunteer.