What is relationship violence?
Relationship violence is "causing physical harm or abuse, and threats of physical harm or abuse, arising out of a personal, intimate relationship. Relationship violence often is a criminal act that can be prosecuted under Minnesota state law, as well as under the Student Conduct Code and employee discipline procedures."
Relationship violence is any unhealthy behavior in a relationship that causes you hurt, fear or shame. Harsh or belittling words, threats, and isolation are often used by one person in a relationship to control the other person. Sometimes relationship violence includes physical assaults, but not always, it can be verbal or emotional abuse too. Many people who have experienced relationship violence feel confused, hurt and/or angry that someone they care about has treated them so badly.
How do I know if it qualifies as relationship violence?
Just as there are many signs of a healthy relationship, there are also many red flags which indicate your relationship may be unhealthy and may be at risk of becoming violent. The Power and Control Wheel helps you identify those red flags. Violent relationships can follow a pattern of good times and bad times called the Cycle of Violence.
Relationship violence is never the fault of the victim. The blames lies with the person who chose to hurt you. Check out our How to Spot a Loser Lover bookmark designed to target youth.
How can I get help?
Aurora Center advocates offer support and advocacy to students, staff and faculty of the University of Minnesota who are victims of relationship violence. They can help you create a safety plan or obtain a restraining order if applicable. Our services are free and confidential. We also offer a support group for survivors of relationship violence.
If you are experiencing violence in your relationship, visit our emergency page.
Where can I learn more?
Additional information is provided in our publications or view the University of Minnesota's Adminstrative policy website on Sexual Assault, Stalking, and Relationship Violence.